Top tips for anal
Anal sex is somewhat of a taboo in our society as we have very much stigmatised this part of our body. So when it comes to anal sex many people feel repulsed or scared to try it.
There are a lot of perceptions that anal sex is dirty or painful, and honestly, if you don’t take some things into consideration it can indeed be painful and messy! But if you create the right container with the right preparation, anal sex can be wonderfully pleasurable for all genders.
So how can you make your anal experience feel amazing? Read on for all the tips for anal you need to know…
Main tips for anal covered in this article
Communication & Consent
Safer Anal Sex
Preparation and Hygiene
Potential Discomfort or Pain
Toys for Anal Sex
Aftercare
Conclusion
Communication & Consent
Communication and consent form the cornerstone of any healthy sexual relationship or connection, especially when exploring intimate practices like anal sex. Open communication allows partners to discuss desires, concerns, and boundaries comfortably. It's crucial to have these conversations beforehand, ensuring both parties are enthusiastic and fully consenting to engage in this activity.
Establishing a safe word or signal can provide an extra layer of assurance, allowing for an immediate stop if either partner feels uncomfortable.
Consent is an ongoing dialogue; it's essential to check in during the experience, respecting each other's comfort levels and boundaries throughout.
Safer anal sex
Safer anal sex involves a combination of preparation, protection, and communication.
Firstly, one of the most important tips for anal is ensuring proper hygiene through gentle cleaning of the anal area beforehand, which can reduce the risk of bacterial transfer. Bacteria can transfer to the urinary tract and cause a painful infection so if you have a vulva it is crucial not to touch the vulva with anything that is in contact with the anus. Never move between anal and vaginal penetration without cleaning the fingers, toy or penis.
Lubrication is key; using plenty of high-quality, water-based lubricant minimises friction and potential tears, enhancing comfort and reducing the risk of injury to the tissue and skin.
Anal sex can not lead to pregnancy and is safe as long as you take safer sex precautions.
Unless you and your partner are fluid bonded (meaning you take ongoing precautions to have safer unprotected sex) condoms or other barrier methods are essential for preventing the spread of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV. Regular STI testing and open communication between partners regarding sexual health can further contribute to a safer experience.
STIs that can be passed on through anal sex include:
Chlamydia
Genital herpes
Genital warts (HPV)
Gonorrhoea
Hepatitis B
HIV
Syphilis
As I said before, anal sex is not unsafe as long as you protect yourself and your partner/s from any risks. Be proactive and confident to talk about safer sex so we can collectively combat the spread of infections.
Preparation & Hygiene
The thing that many people are concerned about with anal sex is soiling themselves or the presence of poop. Well the reality is that if your rectum is not fully empty you may see traces of poop on whatever you insert up there. It’s nothing to be ashamed of and part of being human so if it happens you don’t need to be apologetic. If we are engaging in anal sex we have to get past any fear or embarrassment around this.
To prepare for anal start by gently cleaning the anal area with mild soap and warm water. Some individuals may opt for an enema to further clean the rectum, but it's essential to approach this cautiously as frequent or harsh use can disrupt the body's natural balance.
Choosing a relaxed and comfortable setting can ease tension and facilitate relaxation, making the experience more enjoyable. Being attentive to personal hygiene and taking things slowly can significantly enhance comfort and confidence during anal sex, contributing to a more pleasurable encounter for both or all partners.
Tips for anal to avoid potential discomfort or pain
One of the top tips for anal is to take it SLOW. If you want to warm up your partner then start with some massage on the body and foreplay in whatever way feels good for you both. You should always begin with some gentle touch or licking and kissing around the anal area before you think about penetration.
When you are both ready to go inside, hold the penis, fingers or toy at the entrance and ask your partner to guide you in, allowing them to breath and relax into the first penetration.
Potential discomfort or pain during anal sex can arise due to inadequate lubrication, inadequate relaxation, or improper technique. To avoid this, use a LOT of lube. I recommend natural organic lube for anal rather than any type of oil, especially if using a condom.
Explore different positions until you find one that feels right for you, and communicate with your partner what you are experiencing. Anal sex should not be painful! Never force yourself beyond your comfort and ask your partner to stop if it ever feels too much.
Tips for anal: Toys
You don’t have to have a partner to try anal sex. Here are types of sex toys commonly used for anal play. You can try them either alone or with a partner:
Butt Plugs: Designed for gradual insertion and to stay in place, they come in various sizes and shapes.
Anal Beads: Consist of multiple beads or spheres for gradual insertion and removal, providing different sensations.
Anal Dildos: Similar to regular dildos but designed specifically for anal use, often with a flared base for safety.
Prostate Massagers: Curved toys intended to stimulate the prostate gland for enhanced pleasure and can have vibrating functions.
Anal Vibrators: Vibrating toys designed for anal penetration, offering varied intensities and sensations.
Anal Hooks: More advanced toys featuring a curved hook shape with a ball or other attachment, used for bondage or specific sensations.
Anal Training Kits: Sets of toys in different sizes, ideal for beginners to gradually accustom themselves to anal play.
Always buy body-safe materials (such as silicone or medical-grade stainless steel), ensure they have a flared base or a retrieval handle to prevent them from getting lost inside, and use plenty of lube to ensure comfort and safety during use.
Aftercare
Aftercare following anal sex is crucial for emotional and physical well-being. Start by gently cleaning the anal area with mild soap and warm water to maintain hygiene. You may find that you need to go to the toilet after, so know that it’s normal if you have gas or need to poop!
Emotionally, aftercare involves open communication, cuddling, and reassurance. This intimate time allows partners to reconnect, share feelings, and check in on each other's emotional state after the experience. It's important to address any physical discomfort or concerns; if there's pain, bleeding, or prolonged discomfort please speak to a doctor as this should definitely not be experienced as a side effect. Using soothing techniques like applying a warm compress or taking a relaxing bath can also help alleviate any muscle tension or soreness. Lastly, remember to hydrate and take some time for self-care to ensure both partners feel comfortable and supported after engaging in anal sex.
Conclusion of tips for anal
Exploring anal sex can be a deeply intimate and pleasurable experience when approached with communication, respect, and care. It can open up the door to new sensations and new types of orgasms. Having open dialogue and enthusiastic consent between partners lays the foundation for a safe and enjoyable encounter. Preparation, including hygiene practices and lots of lube. Understanding potential challenges, such as discomfort or pain, allows for proactive measures to mitigate these issues, including taking things slow and exploring different positions. Post-experience, emotional aftercare, communication, and attending to any physical concerns ensure a holistic approach to intimacy. Remember that everyone is different so make sure you are always listening to your partner and taking your time to understand their needs and desires. So go and enjoy your anal adventures and see where your pleasure can take you!
Written by Luna Somatic
Luna is an embodied sex coach and supports people to enhance their sexual experiences through learning and embodied practices. If you are looking for support in your relationships and sex life please reach out for a consultation call here.
