Demystifying Squirting
Squirting has long been a subject of fascination, curiosity, and misinformation. As a somatic sexologist, my aim is to demystify this natural phenomenon and provide you with a comprehensive understanding of squirting from both physiological and emotional perspectives.
In this article, we will delve into the science behind squirting, explore its potential pleasure and emotional dimensions, address common myths, and offer guidance on how to embrace and navigate this unique aspect of female sexuality.
It's important to note that there is ongoing scientific and cultural debate around female ejaculation and squirting. Some argue that they are essentially the same phenomenon, while others suggest there are distinct differences between them.
See my blog post on female ejaculation.
Content Index
What is squirting?
Understanding the science of squirting
Pleasure and emotional dimensions
Dispelling myths about squirting
Tips for exploring squirting
Conclusion
What is squirting?
Squirting is the release of fluid from the glands of the female prostate and bladder. These glands are located near the urethra and can produce fluid during sexual arousal and stimulation. The fluid expelled during squirting is not urine but rather a combination of prostatic fluid, vaginal secretions, and occasionally small amounts of urine.
Understanding the science
While the exact mechanisms and triggers of squirting are not yet fully understood (crazy, I know), it is believed that the stimulation of the urethral sponge, a highly sensitive erogenous zone located inside the vagina on the anterior wall, plays a significant role. This stimulation can lead to the engorgement of the female prostate and the subsequent release of fluid during intense sexual arousal or orgasm.
The fluid is released from the bladder so containers a percentage of urine mixed with expulsion from the female prostate glands which contains some of the same component of seman. The liquid is watery and clear and usually odourless, and can range from a tea spoon to a litre of fluid.
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Pleasure and emotional dimensions
Squirting can be a deeply pleasurable and empowering experience for individuals who are able to experience it. It can be accompanied by intense physical sensations, heightened pleasure, and even profound emotional release. Somatic sexologists emphasise the importance of exploring and embracing one's unique sexual responses, including squirting, as a means of deepening pleasure and connection with oneself and one's partner(s).
It's essential to remember that not all individuals with vaginas are able to squirt, and the ability to do so does not define one's sexual prowess or satisfaction. Everybody is different, and each person's sexual journey is unique. The focus should be on pleasure, self-acceptance, and creating a safe and consensual environment for sexual exploration.
Dispelling myths about squirting
Unfortunately, squirting has been shrouded in misinformation and myths. One common misconception is that squirting is a sign of orgasm or that it is necessary for sexual satisfaction. However, squirting and orgasm are distinct experiences that can occur separately or simultaneously. Orgasm is a complex and subjective experience that varies from person to person.
Another myth is that squirting is solely the result of internal stimulation or pressure on the urethral sponge. While urethral sponge stimulation can indeed be pleasurable and potentially lead to squirting for some individuals, it's important to recognise that not all individuals may experience squirting through urethral sponge stimulation alone. Sexual pleasure and response are highly individualised, and what works for one person may not work for another.
Tips for exploring squirting
Educate yourself: Learn about the anatomy and physiology of the female prostate and the potential for squirting. Understanding how it works can help you approach the topic with knowledge and confidence.
Communication: Discuss squirting with your partner beforehand to ensure everyone is comfortable and enthusiastic about exploring it. Share your desires, concerns, and boundaries to establish open communication.
Relaxation and arousal: Squirting often happens in a relaxed and highly aroused state. Engage in activities that help you and your partner relax, such as massage or foreplay, before focusing on squirting.
Experiment with stimulation: Different techniques and types of stimulation may be more effective for inducing squirting. G-spot stimulation, either through manual stimulation or with sex toys and wands designed for that purpose, is often associated with squirting. Explore what feels pleasurable and experiment with various techniques.
Patience and practice: Squirting may not happen immediately or every time. It can take time to understand your body's responses and what works best for you. Don't put pressure on yourself or your partner, and enjoy the journey of exploration without setting unrealistic expectations.
Use towels or a waterproof sheet: Squirting can involve a significant release of fluid, so it's a good idea to have towels or a waterproof sheet underneath to protect your bedding or furniture!
Hydration: Staying hydrated can help with the production of fluid. Drinking plenty of water throughout the day may contribute to the amount of fluid produced during sexual stimulation.
Remember, not all individuals are able to squirt, and that's completely normal. It's important to focus on pleasure and exploration rather than solely on achieving a specific outcome. Enjoy the experience and prioritise the comfort and consent of all involved parties.
Conclusion
In conclusion, squirting remains a topic of fascination and curiosity in the realm of human sexuality. While there is ongoing scientific and cultural debate surrounding squirting and limited research available, it is essential to approach the subject with an open mind, understanding that experiences can vary from person to person.
Ultimately, it's important to remember that not all individuals are able to squirt, and that's completely normal. Embracing and celebrating one's unique sexual experiences and preferences, without comparison or judgement, is the path toward personal satisfaction and pleasure.
*I recognise that terms like “female ejaculation” and “female prostate” do not accurately represent the bodies and identities of all of my readers. Whilst this blog uses the language of scientific studies and their participants, I acknowledge the diversity of gender and sexual anatomy and that these terms and experiences are not only relevant to ‘female’ people and cis women.
Written by Luna Somatic
Luna is a somatic sexologist and sex coach and sexological bodyworker, meaning she is trained in genital touch and can support people to learn about their bodies and pleasure potential in a safe and educational setting.
